Hey Blush Pink Rose family,
Wow, it has been a while since I sat down and put together a blog for you guys. I took a much-needed break during the summer to spend time with my family in Australia. But upon my return to the United States, we had a few unexpected events happen, so it was only right for me to put a few things on hold. But I am back and ready to continue this amazing journey with you all!
Today’s post stems from my experience this past summer. I don’t think I was quite ready for what came my way but it definitely made me a stronger person. I have titled this post, “Why having a positive perspective is changing my life,” because no matter how positive I seemed to be there was always some type of negative event or person trying to take me off track. But I grabbed my baseball bat and hit all of the negativity out the park and focused on what really mattered – happiness.
The first topic I want to share with you is about expectation verse reality. Speaking from experience, I expected my summer to be completely different than how it turned out to be. Please don’t get me wrong here, it is totally okay to expect something good! However, I just feel there needs to be a balance between accepting that you’re not always going to get what you want and making the most of your present situation.
So getting back to my summer, I thought I would have a job while I was home (which actually never happened), I was continuously challenged every day by my faith, and not only that but getting used to living under my parent’s roof again was GREAT but also a challenge. It felt like everything I had expected to fall into place never really did and I became extremely frustrated. So I began to evaluate my life by writing down what I could do better and it came down to two very simple points.
- Don’t think too far ahead.
- Be in the moment.
I was so worried about what my future would look like that I started to not focus on my present reality. So my mindset had to change. I started to see the world differently in a more positive way. What seemed like an impossible situation suddenly became an exciting challenge. Yes, okay I never actually got a job but it made me work on other things in my life that only made me a better person.
During my time back in the United States, I received some unimaginable news about my mother in love who was fighting for her life in ICU. Every day that we visited, I had to walk past a patients room who had tubes down their throat and to witness families being told that their loved one was not going to make it – broke my heart. So I started to appreciate life a lot more. Not because of this particular situation but because of every experience that had led me up until this point. I have great health, a roof over my head, a loving family and husband, all of the little things that I do have – I am truly grateful for.
In addition, I have taken a little bit away from each experience such as travel, college, what I have seen, what I have heard, and everything else in between to enhance my life in a positive way – you should do the same! I have been down the road of a dark place in my earlier teenage years and it’s taking me a few years to realize, “Hey you! your life is pretty bloody fantastic.”
With that being said I think maturity plays a huge part in this as well. For me personally, I have always been a naturally more mature person than most young adults. Even attending University it was a cool experience but I wanted to get it over with as soon as possible. I was ready to move on to adulthood and settle down. As you get older you start to form the way in which you want to live your life through perspective. For example, I am an identical twin but I have a completely different perspective to my sister but we have lived under the same roof for almost 18+ years together. To each of our own, we have formed our own way of living life through each of our different experiences. Right or wrong life is all about perspective.
To finish off my post I want to touch on how shifting my focus to what matters most did me the world of good! It’s been years since I have had enough courage to put myself first in certain situations. I have always wanted to put others first because when I see somebody genuinely happy I am happy. But there comes a point in your life where you matter too. I started to shift my focus on myself. I started to praise my efforts on achieving certain goals. I went out and pampered myself with a little shopping trip or a fresh pedicure/manicure. There are times where I have eaten a whole block of chocolate despite just finishing a gym workout, why? because I deserve it. Just because something doesn’t go your way initially, get back up and start again. When you have finally achieved your goal reward yourself – enjoy life!
Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive – Leah LaBelle